I do not like how humans always consider body language as the most subtle parameter for assessing a person. I probably do not like it because of the accuracy this particular way of judgement exhibits or partially because I find it unfair to judge anyone by their subconscious decisions. While people like me, live with a paranoid fear of not putting their best foot forward when meeting some one new, the prospect of being judged on basis of my body language or rather on basis of what I choose to do unknowingly seems absolutely annoying. The mere thought of being judged because I unknowingly touch my hair too much and dubbing it as affection seems unfair because someone who I just met does not even deserve to know so much about me.
In the recent years, my mother has been obsessed with making me keep my back straight. Everywhere I go, she keeps droning on "keep your back straight." To the extent where sometimes she ends up poking me or prodding me publicly. Earlier, this was absolutely fine. Now it is starting to veer along the lines of annoyance.
Her reasoning is, that if I'm confident of myself my back will magically be straight?
To that theory, how about no?
Confidence and straight backs seem absurd if linked together. Models battle self esteem issues and still have straight backs. Likewise, I can have a slouchy back and be supremely confident.
I do not seem to belong to the category of people with an appetite for "how to detect a liar by their body language." In fact that is just another way of misjudging people's subconscious actions.
Point is, dear mother and people like her, it is unfair and heartbreaking to watch you judge people over what their involuntary actions give away. I'm touching my hair because it is soft, not because I like you. My back is hunched because my bag is too heavy and I'm touching my face too much because I can feel a pimple come up, not because I'm lying. Stop reading people's actions and instead focus on what they choose to show you, find the hidden poetry in them, later.
